“SHE
has no mystery, its HE who generates the mystery in HER”
an
anecdote to fathers of daughters of 21st century India
When
I think of the better half of a heterosexual Indian man, a question that comes
to my mind is whether
A. she should be the vulnerable, timid,
gloomy, sad, socially unaware, uneducated, unintelligent...
OR
B. she should be strong, bold, beautiful, sensible, sensuous, socially aware, well educated, intelligent... Human being.
Obviously
every Indian man would like, in fact love to be with the B type woman. The
present scenario demands that. What if such a woman chooses not to be the
better half? We would call her an independent woman, or a woman in-dependent.
I
dreamt of a Mother Teresa, Neerja Choudhary, Kiran Bedi, Kalpana Chawla, Sonia
Gandhi, Sushmita Sen, Arundhati Roy, Nandita Das, Preity Zinta, Barkha Dutt,
Sagarika Ghose, Usha Albuquerque, Medha Patkar, Brinda Karat, Rekha Bhardwaj,
Shreya Ghoshal... as 21st century women.
For
a middle class man like me, that is the qualifying mark for a woman to be my
better half. But expectations "wash away the ground
underneath".
Anyway
I pulled on, working on to meet the target. ------------------START
But
there are other men (of all class) unlike me, who believe that woman is an
"object of desire". Where did this belief originate?
A
scientific analysis of the growth of brain, on the basis of feeding of
different kinds of information as input gives the answer. We in India, say
“jaisa boaoge waisa hi kaatoge”, similarly whatever inputs a child’s brain gets
its cell/neuron functions are built accordingly.
CATEGORY
1 : Inputs like the nature – trees, flowers, colonies, huge buildings, birds,
animals, hillock, desert, sea… their real view or pictures produce soothing
effect on the small brain. The child learns from nature and improves on logical
skills and you can see, s/he responds positively to problems involving logical
reasoning. Gradually when s/he shifts to understanding nature through science,
he gets a grip on his/her self. The positive approach/attitude towards life and
society grows. Small failures at times do not affect him, because s/he knows
where the happiness is.
CATEGORY
2 : Take another case, of
exposing the child to unnatural/abnormal things, like suffering people in
a hospital, a terrorist attacked site, human stampede, parents’ fight, nudity,
pornography… Inputs of this nature also produce functions in the brain, but
with a shock, that may change the chemistry of the brain. Still they learn.
Learn and might behave in a manner which is against nature or human
civilization. They may not respond positively to problems involving logical
reasoning. They do not perform in school/college/at home. They are capable of
doing bizarre things, they have secrets, they steal, they cheat, they abuse,
they kill, they find methods to misuse a systematic setup in an organization,
they can engineer false methods to get healthy and wealthy…
With
so much of corruption, carelessness, nudity and pornography being omnipresent,
in the 21st century India, which probably signifies Category 2 population is
larger than Category 1 population, considering the woman as an “object of
desire”(by man) and considering the man as an “object of gratification” (by
woman) is no surprise.
SUICIDE,
RAPE, ABUSE, ASSAULT, DIVORCE, MURDER... happen when Category 1 meets
Category 2 for a relationship. Or ”temporary relationship”, “giving space” are
the phrases attached, with a compromising relationship of ‘modern’ India.
Woman
is bestowed with the power to create, to love, to build, to strengthen a man to
achieve greater heights in protecting the family and human civilization. In
ancient India, she was considered to be a form of “Devi”, so stable, static,
never changing, powerful, self protecting, virgin until she chose to marry a
man of her choice.
Can
SHE go wrong?
Yes,
in the fourth dimension of the evolution of earth, the much protected culture
of India is witnessing this harsh reality.
But
again, behind the bad behaviour of a woman there is a/are man/men. And one
amongst them/the only man is the biological father, because
if he doesn’t care, and give a damn to his offsprings, a girl child
turning into a “loose character” is also no surprise. The sinful women of 21st
century India are a result of such careless fathers or a few Category 2
men. Though these women seem to be sinfully swee t and challenging
but are DANGEROUS to mankind.
Can
they ever be the better half or the best half given a chance?
Gave
up. Mission impossibe.-------------- ------------------------ -------END
Why
do we produce them? Who produced the men and women who never cared for their
children?
Nakshatra, Zodiac sign…… ……… ……… ……… ……… ………
.. is all shit.
If
men of this century mend their ways maybe we could decelerate the
entropy of the planet which is continuously increasing.
If
fathers just stick to the following points may be we could harness a lot more
from the feminine gender more than what she is capable of. Because
"mamta" is attached with her since her birth.
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Do not fight with your spouse in front of your kids.
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Do not bathe with your child.
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Do not change clothes in front of your child.
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Spend quality time with your child on daily basis.
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Take your child for some sports or community centre.
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Have meal or dinner together with your family.
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Put up a good teamwork at household chores with your spouse.
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If your child don't perform in studies and is calm, do not leave it
unattended.
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Do not scold or beat your child.
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Work hard to keep them happy.
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Don't ever lie.
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Keep a watch on what they see on television.
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Teach them civilized behaviour.
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Keep a watch on his/her friends.
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Leave the locality, where your child faces problems with mingling with
other kids. If other kids neglect your child, change the place. Good people
always mingle.
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Study and understand your child’s psychology.
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Report CSA/ISA even in the neighbourhood, to an NGO.
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